The What Ifs Are So Scary!

I think I am hormonal today. I even had a good cry, thank you very much Oh The Joys (by the way, this is one of my favorite sites). Every once and a while I reflect on the birth of The Babe. It was 2 1/2 years ago and I still remember it like was yesterday! The 7 weeks that followed were so damn scary!!!

How can a women who doesn’t have any of the inside girlie parts be so ding dang emotional and hormonal, you ask? Who the hell knows? I am convinced that even after a hysterectomy us girls still get our monthly boo hoo’s. You can’t convince me other wise, partly because I have researched this topic at length and partly because I am so flippin’ bull headed.

Ok, getting back to the birth of The Babe and the days that followed. I was induced at 38 weeks or so, due to being eclamptic. I was so fortunate to deal with that with all 3 of my pregnancies. LOL. She was born at 10:10 P.M. and everything was great. She was perfect and we were moved to the mother baby unit shortly after.

By 2 A.M., I was bleeding uncontrollably in the bathroom. I remember calling to The Big Guy while I was in the bathroom, “I think you should call the nurse now, something is not right, there is too much blood”. With that there was a lot of hustle and bustle and I was put back in bed and had a good ol’ manual evacuation of, for lack of better words, “stuff”. How freakin’ fun.

You want to know the really funny part? They still sent me home the next day. Thats right, my hematocrit was in the toilet and I couldn’t close my legs due to 2 hands being shoved up there right after giving birth. Not to mention the amount of cramping I had due to having prolonged pitocin for 24 hours, thanks to the good ol’ bleed.

I am going to share with you an interesting fact: redheads bleed more than anyone else, also we have an increased tolerance for pain. I have now been told this by at least 10 doctors and it is in most labor and delivery nursing text books. Kinda funny, huh? Go ahead, Google it.

To make a very long story short, I was readmitted to the hospital 4 days after coming home with my new baby. Yup, you guessed it, I was hemorrhaging again. In the 7 weeks that followed, I was in the hospital a total of 32 days, had a total of 4 D&C’s, 2 uterine arterty embolectomies, by the way I was the first to ever have one of these procedures at this institution, many and many units of blood and finally a total hysterectomy (that means I am in cited in medical research, I can just picture the big ol’ picture of my “down there” parts, I am so proud).

Thank the sweet lord that number 1, I didn’t die, I was quite close a couple times, and number 2, that I had the eneormous support system that we were surrounded with. The Big Guy was a full time worker, full time daddy, full time worrier while I was in the hospital, but he always held it together when he came to visit me. He even brought The Babe to see me a couple of times, which kept me smiling. It was so damn hard to see your kids maybe 3 times in a month, and one was just a wee little baby.

Oh, I cried so much. My mom and mother in law kept the house running and kids taken care of. My close friends helped out at the house and took turns visiting me, even stayed in the room when my big ass got a bath. God bless them! Their eyes were probably burned by my flesh! My dad came and sat with me almost everyday and never showed a look of panic or urgency. Knowing what I know now, that was a big job.

I know, I should probably see a therapist due to the fact that I still think about this every once in awhile. I do think that this has actually made our family so much stronger though. I know I am sarcastic, crass and even seem ungrateful with some of my writing, but believe me, when I look at my kids and think, “what if”, I say a big thank you to the guy upstairs. I could have missed out on all this craziness! And damn it, this is my craziness!!!

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4 Responses to “The What Ifs Are So Scary!”

  1. Oh, The Joys Says:

    I have a good friend that also has a really tough birth story… they are thinking of #2 and she is in therapy because she feels like getting pregnant is a sure signal of doom.

  2. Doggy Mama Says:

    That is the strangest fact about red heads!

    And wow, what you have been through for your little ones!

  3. Melissa R. Garrett Says:

    OMG! WOW! GASP! I can’t even imagine having to go through that, and I am SO sorry you had to. How can you NOT think about it? Memories or traumatic events, such as yours, just don’t go away. And it’s obvious it bothers you still. HUGS :-)

  4. Esther Says:

    Hey, we could be twins with that birth story. Yes, it’s really horrible, going in the hospital, have baby, have surgery the next day, going home. Going back to the hospital, surgery, go home. Little kids at home. And new mom is breastfeeding. That was crazy & scary. It all really sucked, but now that I had three kids and the hysterectomy at 28yrs old, I’m just glad it’s over with. Except menopause really sucked some more on top of it all. They left my ovaries, but I went into premature ovarian failure. Ah, in a nutshell, menopause. That’s really fun when you’re breastfeeding & 29yrs old.

    We didn’t let it get us down & we are now adopting two more children. I feel much better now that I’m thru with menopause. It’s really great not having the monthly cycle ;o)

    Glad you’re alright now. Best wishes, Esther

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